This Custom Made Piece

Happy TribeLife Tuesday! 

I am so excited to meet you here today. I have something delightful, brief, and challenging to share. 

Let’s start with this somewhat intimidating question. (Well, for some of you, it may not be intimidating—but it definitely was for me, for a long time.) It just so happens that I’ve reached a blip in time where this question has been clarified. More so than it has ever been.

I have always been a go-getter, and have had a pretty great work ethic (I think it’s genetic). But I have also consistently struggled with this question: What was I made for? 

While I can do a lot of things and have been content in each job and in each season, there always came this point. The point where the weight of continuing to do something that I knew I was not made for was overwhelming. Not in the "I’m too good for this" kind of way, but in the "there’s got to be more than this" kind of way. And now, I have to find it. The answer to this looming question.  

What was I made for? 

This question makes me think about custom, handcrafted pieces of furniture and art. The thing about these pieces is that they have a specific purpose. They were built for a specific reason—to fill a certain role or function. Be it furniture for a room or art for a wall, they are distinct and special. And it seems as though this analogy mirrors each of our beautiful lives. It is my belief that you and I are tailor-made to bring something specific to the world, and in the process of figuring this out, it is less about what we do and more about who we are becoming

And therein lies the vortex where the two converge: the WHO of you and the WHAT you do meet in the middle—which is what I assume the "sweet spot" is. 

The sweet spot is available for all of us. It’s more than accomplishment and praise for hard work or focus—it’s what you were made for. This sweet spot will look very different for each of us—so much so, that I will refrain from giving examples. But as the path begins to narrow, don’t be afraid, don’t look around, don’t compare—because custom pieces are made for a specific purpose and to fill a space that only it can. 

But I’ll give some practicals (because I’m a practical kind of human): Find people who compliment the direction your going—not “yes-ers" (people who will tell you yes to everything). Rather, surround yourself with those who challenge or push you to keep becoming. These are your people and you will quickly find that there are not a whole lot of them. Friends, yes, have all the friends. But those who have access to the "sweet spot" - the vortex - are very, very few. Why? Because it’s an intimate and valuable place. 

Before we go our separate ways, will you join me in a project? 

1 - Ask yourself… Set aside about 15 minutes and sit down with a pen and paper (you can use your phone or computer, I just find there are more opportunities for distraction when I go the technology route). Write, "What was I made for?” at the top of the page. For the next 15 minutes or so, write down everything that comes to your mind. Start with what you are good at, what you love doing, what makes you happy, etc. Write it all down. 

2 - Ask again. Call (or a face to face of sorts) the closest person to you and ask them what they think you were made for. When have they seen you the happiest? Don’t text or email—CALL. There is a human aspect to this exercise that gets lost otherwise, and this becomes a task. Allow this to be more than that. You are gathering blueprints for your custom-made, exquisite piece. 

3 - Share. If you decide to join me on this project I would love to hear how it went and what you discovered along the way. Email me here or post in the comments below. 

Cheers to discovery!